It is truly a privilege to be invited to support such strong amazing women. To give a women the space to have their traumatic birth experience acknowledged and to see the difference that this amazing technique can make. I have been supporting an amazing woman for the last few weeks to enable her to release the traumatic emotion’s attached to the memory of the birth of her daughter. For me there is literally nothing more fulfilling than seeing a woman released from what can be a truly devastating wealth of emotion. Thank you so much Deborah for sharing your story and allowing be to be part of it x
I found having my beautiful, healthy daughter to be, quite frankly, the most traumatic experience of my life. Never before had my body felt such pain, been so violated and given such little time, space and support to recover, both physically and emotionally. If anyone asked me about my birth experience, depending on how well I knew that person I’d either tell them ‘it was the worst day of my life’ or I’d cry. I struggled to manage the anxiety and continued feelings of disappointment in myself, in my husband and in the women whose job it was to take care of me plagued me for months following the birth. I spoke to both my health visitor and GP who dismissed my feelings because my daughter had been born vaginally. So ‘normal’. Having a stranger cut me open and wrench my daughter out with a sucker cup didn’t feel normal to me!
Through a stroke of luck I heard about Wendy’s birth trauma sessions through the la leche league Facebook group and decided to give her a call.
I can honestly say I am so so pleased that I did. Wendy’s rewind method has helped me to store the memory of my daughters birth as an experience that, although still somewhat negative, doesn’t hold the same feelings of trauma and anxiety that it once had.
Whereas before meeting Wendy I was anticipating my daughters first birthday the way one might anticipate an anniversary of the day you were involved in a horrible car crash, I now look forward to celebrating my lovely baby and I can look back at the day of her birth and think that it wasn’t exactly as I planned but she’s here and she was worth it.
I really think that some women may feel traumatised by births that others (and health care professionals) deem ‘normal’. It’s so much more complex than that – and I’m grateful to Wendy for validating my trauma and helping me deal with it and move on!